Im the new guy at work
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Starting a new job is tough — you have to get used to new work, new colleagues, a new boss and new office culture. Sometimes people try so hard to be at home right away in a new office that they end up inadvertently alienating their new co-workers. Talking too much about your old job. Not taking notes. Minimizing the challenges of your job, team or company. Not welcoming input and advice. Plus, if you seem to spurn helpful advice, people will stop offering it — and you may need it down the road.
Taking sides in office conflicts. Be very, very cautious about taking sides in those conflicts. Not paying attention to cues about office culture.
In many ways, offices are like little countries, with their own norms and ways of operating. You ignore those at your peril! Not asking for help when you need it. A guy at my last job did this, and it sort of drove everyone bonkers for no real reason. I spent the weekend with my kids.
I know, I often do the same. So now I focus on pretending to be the chill mellow people I always like so much. I still struggle with awkward silences though. I recently caught myself doing this with a conversation about baseball, and I have Many Thoughts about baseball and things related to baseball. I think I got about 10 min in when I realized and clammed up to let someone else take the lead. Haha I tend to be an oversharer and I am trying so hard to dial that back.
I can see myself going too far the other way. I can get behind that. I work for the State, and holy crap… the things I learned in the first month. Ex: The preferred term is warlock, not wizard.
This guy is not a good guy to be in any office. I had my kids for the weekend, and we went to the museum. Sorry, that is not clear at all. No, she is new to our organization. Her old organization was a lot larger so procedures are naturally different. I worked with a guy once who talked about people whose previous company was Oh So Peachy.
Like, I can see an internal transfer doing it, maybe, but a whole new job? I work with this person. And to make matters worse, she is completely out of her depth in her new role, in which she is responsible for things which used to come under my role.
Not train — collaborate. She refuses to ask questions, has trouble retaining information, interrupts constantly to try to hide the fact that she is not up to speed, and yes — refers to the way she used to do things in a different industry at every turn. In my estimation, the worst thing that former-job-invokers do to the rest of us is leave us open to looking like we are resistant to change, and not open to new ideas.
I had a boss like this, and it was really frustrating because she had way more resources at her disposal at her old job so we simply could not do things her way where we were. She burned us out really quickly. Thankfully she left after a year. I used to overdo comparisons to my old job, but only because I was so excited to finally work somewhere that did things in a way that made sense!
In retrospect, nobody cared. Hence the juxtaposition KHB referred to. In the one corner, we have Irritating New Hire, fresh-faced and full of righteousness. In the other corner, Annoying Trainer, with an overpowering sense of authority!
Who will win in this battle of immovable superiority meeting inexorable gumption? Only the AAM commentariat will know! Definitely not. Avoiding sides in office politics is the hardest thing about being a new employee. When two sides are fighting, people want to recruit others to their side, and sometimes have the hierarchical standing to do so.
This is a great one. I find office politics super scary, and the best thing new people can do is try to stay as far out of it as possible. I feel super awkward when someone mean-gossips about co-workers. But figuring out how to act, or hearing about strangers acting badly esp wedding craziness is a very different scenario for me.
Luckily we were eventually able to fire her for unrelated issues. Things have been much less dysfunctional with her gone! I just transferred internally into an SME position and got plopped into a conflict like that without even realizing it. At my first post-professional-school interview, the head honcho made it absolutely clear that were I hired, I needed to be in his corner in all things office politics.
I am not good at seeing these things, just to be clear — it was obvious as the nose on my face which is pretty obvious; my family is not among the small-nosed.
I was offered the position. I turned it way, way down. No way was I walking into that. Head honcho was gone a mere three years later, which is lightning-fast for the industry in question. I second this. When I was in school I got a job as Head Cashier at a chain bookstore. There were several Head Cashiers because there had to be at least one for each shift and sometimes two. No one said anything, but after a couple of weeks it occurred to me that it was a common space and perhaps I should have been more respectful of that.
No one should be afraid of asking for clarification or more detail. Yeah, I feel like I need to train myself to ask questions up front. This is totally fine to me! Like constantly asking the receptionist if we have this or that kind of office supply without looking around in the supply cabinets first.
Or she needed an external cd drive for her computer, so our director told her to pick which one she wanted and then email the link to the office manager who would make the purchase with the company card.
Which one should I get? Is this one ok? Who do I email it to? I should email it to Jane? Or Wakeen? Should I copy Wakeen? What should my email say? So when it comes will they just put it on my desk? When I started this job with my current employer 3 years ago, I had to walk on eggshells around the crabby woman who trained me.
If I made a mistake she said I should have asked more questions. If I asked questions, she grew irritated at me for overthinking things. I could not please her or even get her to be okay with me.
Still…it sucks to be the trainer and it sucks to be the trainee. This is the one that really grates on me. Why would you not take notes? The writing things down distracts from the other two functions, and you DO want me listening, right? That is often notes for notes-sake. I want to second this. My dad is deeeeeeeeeeply dyslexic, but also operates at a very high level.
He would listen to school lectures, and presumably throughout his work career, without taking any notes. Thanks for the reminder. Yeah I hardly ever take notes, and when I do, I rarely, If ever, look back at them. I stopped taking notes partway through high school because I realized it was a waste of time and only resumed in some college classes because I actually found it helpful, but even then, I rarely looked back at them. I often learn by doing, so if a trainer walks me through a process, it will stick in my head better.
Exactly what I came here to post. Whereas if I attempt to take notes, it interferes with my ability to listen and understand. Simple example: Our shared drive has a very specific and complex structure of folders and subfolders, many of which are named with abbreviations.
I’m Here to Work. Not to Be Your Friend.
A something who's surprisingly bad at Tinder, Em learned a few lessons indulging in a workplace crush once. A few years back, after spending many a boring work week going through the same routine in the confines of my small workspace, something exciting happened—my longtime boyfriend and I split up at nearly the same time that my new coworker's relationship with his girlfriend hit the skids. While we'd spent the first few weeks of his employment there practically ignoring each other unless otherwise necessary, we suddenly had a lot in common, which we discovered during shared lunch breaks that eventually led to late-night text sessions. And then you can guess the rest after that because rebounds are rarely a long-term solution for two something broken hearts.
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Starting a new job is tough — you have to get used to new work, new colleagues, a new boss and new office culture. Sometimes people try so hard to be at home right away in a new office that they end up inadvertently alienating their new co-workers. Talking too much about your old job. Not taking notes. Minimizing the challenges of your job, team or company. Not welcoming input and advice.