When your best guy friend rejects you
Over a year ago I met this guy who turned out to be one of the most interesting, genuine, driven, and intelligent people I have ever met. We met on a dating site and I was so surprised I came across a man I can finally trust. The only problem is, I am entirely crazy about him, and for him, what started as a fling has now sizzled to a friendship. Part of the reason why things went down hill is that we really differ when it comes to emotions. I wear my emotions on my sleeve like the majority of girls, whereas he is the typical closed-off man, whom I believe to be the most emotionally unavailable person on the face of this earth. I spilled my feelings quick, and in return I got friend zoned.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: What happens when you stay friends with the person who rejected you
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- The biggest mistakes you could make after someone rejects you
- 9 Women Reveal How Being Rejected By Men Actually Made Them Feel More Fulfilled
- He Rejected Me But Insists on a Friendship
- The Secret to Rejecting Someone Kindly Is Simpler Than You Think
- Guys, I just got rejected by my BEST GUY FRIEND?
The biggest mistakes you could make after someone rejects you
Staying friends with him is only going to bring me pain. Friendship feels like a consolation prize. I know friendship is valuable, but in the context of unrequited love, it feels like winning a luggage set instead of the main prize, which was the trip to Hawaii. The guy who dissed me was looking out for himself.
But I have rights, too. Why put myself in those situations? I have enough friends. I have loads of friends in my life. It just feels warped, like trying to ignite a friendship with an ex after the awkwardness of a breakup. I want to move onto bigger, better things. I want to chuck it out and move on. Why must I be the one to compromise and change? I need to push my feelings aside, try to get over the guy, and so on.
But hell. Why should a friendship be so hard? I know how crappy it feels to want to be with someone who only sees me as a friend. I know how crappy it is to see them all the time and try to embrace a friendship, but secretly be dying inside.
I have nothing to prove. I just want to be happy, and I will be by walking away. You immediately connect with an awesome coach on text or over the phone in minutes. Just click here …. Jessica Blake Jessica Blake is a writer who loves good books and good men, and realizes how difficult it is to find both.
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9 Women Reveal How Being Rejected By Men Actually Made Them Feel More Fulfilled
Unhappy New Year! One of Smitten's very loyal readers has sent us a dilemma —and it's a big one. Click through to read her particular problem…. On one really late and drunken night about a year and a half ago, I confessed to my best guy friend that I had feelings for him.
Putting yourself out there can be a scary thing. Give yourself a little time to heal from the rejection, and with a little effort on your part, you can continue talking to him as if nothing ever happened. Getting rejected can feel horrible, but you can go back to talking with a guy as long as you give yourself some time to heal. It might take a couple of weeks until you have the courage to talk to him again, so use that time to process your feelings and strengthen your confidence. Try to keep your conversations simple at first.
He Rejected Me But Insists on a Friendship
I don't know what to think anymore. My friend took a screenshot of a text he sent her saying that he does like me back I don't know why he is trying to play with my feelings but I am not ready to shut him out but I might have to. If he does like you back in terms of love, he better shows it. Until then, don't flirt and just see him as still your best friend. I have had a past experience with a person only wanting to date me if I lost my virginity to them, I probably should have added that detail. Cool-person Xper 4. Ok so I totally am in love with this guy and he is my best friend and I told him how I feel and he just said, but we are best friends and I like you just as a friend! I am dying and crying and all my friends are sleeping and I just want to die! I have to see him like everyday and I just want to die in a hole!
When I was single, there was truly nothing more difficult than telling a dude I had feelings for him. In fact, I'd go out of my way to convince them that I didn't have any feelings at all before I would actually swallow my pride and share my feelings openly and honestly. The root of this little problem of mine was, of course, a fear of being rejected by men I had feelings for. But, according to a new Reddit AskWomen thread, being rejected isn't as bad as I thought it would be.
But what if you want to turn your current best friend into your partner? Well, as one of the few people who has done it successfully, I can tell you that it's as HARD and embarrassing and painful as you think it is. But for me, it was worth it in the end no matter what came out of it.
The Secret to Rejecting Someone Kindly Is Simpler Than You Think
Remember that super-awkward moment in Pride and Prejudice when the awful Mr. Collins corners Elizabeth Bennet and asks her well, more like tells her to marry him? Can I speak plainer?SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: How Do You Act Normal Around A Friend Who Just Rejected You
There is nothing easy about getting rejected by a potential partner. It's embarrassing, it can bruise your ego , and it's disappointing. The future that you thought you might have with them has been ripped out of your hands and that is never going to feel good. It's totally natural to want to comfort yourself in moments like these. No one will blame you if you have a little cry, lock yourself in your room for a night, and watch your sad movie of choice with some ice cream. That comfort might be physically needed because the feeling of rejection can actually light up the part of the brain associated with physical pain.
Guys, I just got rejected by my BEST GUY FRIEND?
Not really, anyway. People sometimes reject us because of the behavior we exhibit in our interactions with them. And their obvious solution is to remove themselves from our presence. When I was twenty, I had a big crush on a girl I worked with. We went out a few times and it seemed to start off well. But slowly, she started to pull away and avoid me. It stung.
While men whine about being cast to the zone and blame the person doing the casting, women just blame themselves. Self-esteem is a massive thing in a relationship and if you have none, it shows everywhere, from your face to your personality to your treatment of others. You can be stunningly beautiful, but if you suffer from dangerously low self-esteem, a man will take notice immediately. Men can even see through those types of women who JOKE negatively about themselves thanks to the joke being a very obvious bandaid used to loosely cover up a low self-esteem.